wedding planning

Questions & Answers

1.Who pays for the wedding?
2.Where do I start with my guest list?
3.Who do we invite if we're getting married abroad?
4.Who sends the invitations and when?
5.Should I set a dress code?
6. What time should the bride & groom get to the ceremony?
7.Do my bridesmaids enter before or after me?
8. What duties do the best man and ushers have?
9.Can my pet dog be part of my wedding?
10.Do we have to have favours?
11.Do we need a receiving line?
12.Should we offer a choice of food?
13.When are the speeches and in what order?
14.When should we register our gift list?
15.Can we ask for cash instead of presents?

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THE RECEPTION AFTER the whole company has returned to the house, or ...

THE RECEPTION AFTER the whole company has returned to the house, or arrived at the place appointed for the reception, the bride's mother takes up her position at the entrance of the reception room and greets the guests as they arrive, the bride and bridegroom being stationed in the centre of the room to receive the congratulations of the guests after they have greeted the bride's mother. Sometimes the presents are laid out for inspection, and as soon as the congratulations are over, refreshments should be served, usually at a buffet from which the best man and the male members of the party attend on the ladies.

Savoury sandwiches (chicken, cucumber, egg and cress etc), cakes, tea, coffee, and wine comprise the usual menu, champagne being the traditional wine though by no means essential. If used, one bottle to every three persons is considered a good estimate. In due course, the bride cuts the wedding cake. This is the appropriate moment for the champagne to be handed round, and everyone present must partake of the bridal cake.

It is a good plan - in order to avoid accidents - for the cake to have had the first piece partly cut, but left in position for the bride to finish cutting. Absent friends are sent a small slice of cake with a wedding card in an ornamental box.

This is done by the bride's mother in the two or three days immediately after the wedding. The type of wedding 'breakfast' provided will depend both on the resources of the bride's father and the time of day at which the wedding is taking place. In fact the breakfast is more usually a light lunch, usually a cold buffet, and even where a formal sit-down meal is organized, the present trend is for the service of cold meats, poultry or salmon and salad rather than the soup, fish, joint and sweet type of full-scale hot meal. Often the buffet comprises both cocktail-party food, i.e., canapes, small filled rolls, sausages on sticks etc., as an alternative to a cold meal which can be eaten standing up while guests circulate socially.

Correctly speaking, formal toasts should be made only if the breakfast is a formal meal, but most families would not feel the party complete unless the health of the happy couple had been drunk immediately following the cutting of the wedding cake. The bridegroom should reply to the chief toast or speech, including in his response an appreciate of the assistance given by the bridesmaids, unless a separate toast or speech is to be given in their honour. Everyone is happiest if speeches can be kept as brief as is possible within the bounds of good manners.

The time which elapses between the bride's arrival at her reception and her departure for the honeymoon will obviously vary from family to family. If the reception is taking place in a hired hall or hotel there will be greater pressures to wind up the festivities with the set period of the hire contract than if the reception is being held at home. Generally speaking, however, an hour to an hour and a half is a good time for the bride to slip away and change. The groom usually remains at the reception a little longer before himself slipping away to don his travel clothes.

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