wedding planning

Questions & Answers

1.Who pays for the wedding?
2.Where do I start with my guest list?
3.Who do we invite if we're getting married abroad?
4.Who sends the invitations and when?
5.Should I set a dress code?
6. What time should the bride & groom get to the ceremony?
7.Do my bridesmaids enter before or after me?
8. What duties do the best man and ushers have?
9.Can my pet dog be part of my wedding?
10.Do we have to have favours?
11.Do we need a receiving line?
12.Should we offer a choice of food?
13.When are the speeches and in what order?
14.When should we register our gift list?
15.Can we ask for cash instead of presents?

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NONCOMFORMIST WEDDINGS Where the minister of the selected church or chapel is ...

NONCOMFORMIST WEDDINGS Where the minister of the selected church or chapel is 'an authorized person' and the building in which he or she performs duties has been registered and adopted under the provisions of the Marriage Act of 1898, procedures will be exactly as previously explained. Where the minister is not - legally speaking - an authorized person as, for example, in some branches of the evangelical or Pentecostal Christian church where the entire schismatic sect perhaps numbers only a few hundred worshippers - additionally, a registrar will have to be present. He will not, however, as is commonly supposed, have to conduct a second ceremony of the civil type in order to make the marriage legal, but will merely record the event in his local register, the happy couple having previously carried out the procedures as for a civil wedding. Some couples may, however, prefer from the convenience point of view simply to arrange a civil ceremony which establishes their marriage in the eyes of the state and then to follow on - either the same day - or several days later with an independent religious ceremony which follows the precepts of their own faith.

This is often the procedure for non-Christian couples such as Hindus, Sikhs or Africans with a non-Christian tribal rite which they wish to honour, members of the Greek or Russian Orthodox churches and for some Catholics. ROMAN CATHOLIC WEDDINGS A Roman Catholic wedding service is very similar to that of the Protestant church - especially since the Roman rite abandoned its Latin prayers in favour of the lingua franca of the nation in which the service is performed. However the word 'obey' is omitted and the bridegroom holds the right hand of his bride while saying 'I take thee to be my wedded wife / partner ' and so on . . . In the Catholic rite, too, the ring has a greater symbolic value. The bridegroom places the ring first on the thumb of the bride's left hand saying 'In the name of the Father' transfers it to the index finger with the words 'and of the Holy Ghost', finally placing it on the third finger and thus completing the act of marriage with the word 'amen'. When the groom promises his wife / partner 'with all my wordly goods I thee endow' he presents her with some small coins as token of this vow.

The Catholic ceremony which includes a Nuptial Mass contains a particularly beautiful prayer for the bride's wisdom love and peace. JEWISH WEDDINGS In Jewish weddings the couple are required to give their local registrar notice as for civil and nonconformist weddings, but in most cases the secretary of the synagogue will be an 'authorized person' licensed to maintain a marriage register so that the presence of a registrar at the ceremony will not be necessary.

The decision as to whether the ceremony will be held at a synagogue or in a private house (a unique Jewish privilege) will be dependent on the degree of orthodoxy professed by the couple - and their parents. The only other legal point of variation is that a Jewish wedding may take place at any hour of the day, not necessarily before 6 p.m. as required for all other wedding ceremonies. In practice this means that Jewish ceremonies are often scheduled for late afternoon so that the reception can take the form of an evening party - often a dinner dance.

This means that correct dress for many Jewish weddings is evening dress, or at least party clothes, whereas guests attending a civil, Church of England, Catholic or Christian nonconformist ceremony would normally expect to wear smart day clothes - or for very formal weddings morning dress with the ladies in the kind of attire they might otherwise choose for a Royal Garden party. Rules about the covering of the head - for both men and women at Jewish wedding ceremonies should be checked in advance. However, synagogues in sophisticated urban areas, where it can be reasonably expected that a proportion of the guests will be non-orthodox or even gentile will usually make their own arrangements in this matter. It is not unusual for the synagogue staff, in conjunction with the family of the bride, to arrange to issue headgear on loan - chiffon scarves for the ladies often thoughtfully in a range of colours to tone with various colours of dresses, and disposable paper caps for men in the foyer of the building.

If The Ceremony Is Truly Orthodox The Men Will Be Expected To ...

If the ceremony is truly orthodox the men will be expected to sit separately from the women during the service - and sometimes very devout families will continue this arrang

Quaker weddings the ceremony at which members of the society of friends ...

QUAKER WEDDINGS The ceremony at which members of the Society of Friends pledge life-long love and loyalty to each other is the simplest of all the Christian wedding ce

Naval Marriages Since The Naval Marriage Act Of 1908, Members Of The ...